If you "want to be single too much" on Valentine's Day, you may suffer from physical and mental illness! Doctor: "Four major groups" please love yourself first
February 14th coincides with Valentine’s Day in the West. Many couples exchange gifts and gather together to celebrate during the festival. However, there are not a few people who seek medical treatment for emotional problems. Most people seek help from mind-body clinics due to “emotional disorders” caused by troubles and pressures caused by their own emotions or maintaining emotional relationships.
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Dr. Chen Yiru, a psychosomatic physician at the Cheng Ching Hospital Chung Kang Branch, said that among the cases that have been consulted and treated in the past, especially those seeking treatment for emotional problems around the holidays, they can be mainly classified into four major groups:
People who want to be single but have been single for a long time find themselves alone when they see others with each other. As a result, they suffer from continuous loss, stress, depression and other discomforts, which seriously affect their daily routine. This is the often-heard “Valentine’s Day Fear” disease".
Excessive exaggeration of the other person’s advantages due to infatuation (psychology calls it the “halo effect”, also known as the halo effect). Only after deepening the relationship do you realize that the other person is not as perfect as you imagined, so you fall into low ebb and depression.
Couples who have been in emotional trouble for many years, unable to communicate and resolve, seek counseling for divorce crisis.
People with illnesses such as depression, bipolar disorder or anxiety generally have high expectations for festivals; on the other hand, they are also afraid that their illness will affect the development of their emotional relationships.
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Dr. Chen Yiru pointed out that when counseling the above-mentioned cases in the clinic, she would like them to have the following thoughts: “Life is a series of ‘choices’ rather than the pursuit of ‘success’. Learning how to enjoy happiness in every choice is important for everyone The biggest issue at the moment.” Therefore, Dr. Chen Yiru offers some gentle suggestions:
In the relationship between the sexes, respect each other as an independent individual with his own unique life experience, give him space, and replace control and possession with appreciation and tolerance.
After falling in love, remind yourself that feelings are not everything in the world. Love yourself more and cherish other people and things you have. Giving in and being wronged will make you unable to find your position in the relationship. Resentment and revenge may lead to lose-lose situations.
There is no perfection in the world. Use “mindfulness” to learn to accept all your emotions and cherish every moment. Mindfulness refers to allowing oneself to perceive the present moment of each experience without any evaluation. In the process of unfolding awareness and understanding, practice to let the body, emotions, thoughts, ideas and other mental states lead to relaxation, stress reduction, calmness and A state of relaxed concentration.
Finally, Dr. Chen Yiru reminded that in emotional relationships, one should bravely face depression, anxiety and other emotions. If you feel that your negative emotions are out of control, you should consult a professional physician or psychological counselor to find out the root cause of the problem together. If you are single and are stressed about Valentine’s Day, you can arrange activities in advance, have dinner with friends or family, or participate in more social activities and meet friends to help change your mood, and don’t let the happiness you deserve slip away from your hands.
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