Do you want to be "sex addicted" every day? Experts reveal the truth: If you can't get hard, you have to keep changing partners
Want to be “sex addicted” every day? Why does sexual obsessive-compulsive disorder occur?
Is wanting to “have sex” every day a sex addiction? Director Tong Songzhen of Taiwan’s Songfu Sexual Health Management Center said that there is no medical diagnosis of “sex addiction”, but there may be “excessive” or even “hyperactive” sex, which is closer to the model of obsessive-compulsive disorder. This is different from addiction caused by a single factor such as drugs, alcohol, and substance abuse.
Director Tong Songzhen explained that the “obsessive-compulsive disorder” of sexual desire refers to wanting to have sex too many times a day. However, how to define “too much” depends on whether it affects normal life the next day and whether it is excessive. Tiredness, ability to control thoughts, etc., the criteria vary from person to person.
Director Tong Songzhen pointed out that sexual obsessive-compulsive disorder is mostly the result of the multiplication of psychological and physiological factors. In the acute stage, it may be possible to go to the psychosomatic department to control it through medication, but in the long term, you still need to understand the reasons behind it. Only then can we fundamentally solve it.
Can it be improved by diverting attention? Is sex addiction sometimes a functional problem?
If you want to have sex and masturbate every day, all you need to do is divert your attention? Director Tong Songzhen pointed out that as soon as this withdrawal method is stopped, the original hyperactive state will immediately return to its original state, because “taboos are often the best propaganda.” What we really need to do is to find the purpose of the source of the behavior, so as to relieve the problem of not having sex and Reasons why you will feel anxious if you don’t masturbate. For example, some cases have problems similar to sex addiction. In fact, they feel that they are not hard enough and must ejaculate every day in order to feel that they are functioning normally.
Another type of person who needs to solve the problem of sex addiction is actually related to potential “impotence”. They cannot have sexual desire and response to a fixed single partner, so they have to keep looking for different people to have relationships with. In fact, it is because the function has declined, and more stimulation must be used to maintain normal function.
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“Why does this addiction problem exist? It’s very simple, because he found that as long as I change the person in the bed, my functions and performance will improve. But the relationship between people needs to be managed. If I have a stable partner Why do we need to keep changing partners in relationships? From a psychological point of view, it is actually the insecurity about ourselves and the need to constantly be unappreciated that causes this situation!”
Director Tong Songzhen said that sometimes when couples get along for a long time, the “sexiness” in each other’s eyes does not depend on appearance, but on how they feel about each other and whether they have appropriate communication and coordination to develop a deeper relationship with each other. If you just want to be sexually satisfied, you may need to constantly change partners to maintain sexual freshness. Eventually it evolved into a vicious cycle of constantly denying oneself and avoiding functional problems.
Proper communication with your partner, in-depth management of the relationship, and serious face of functional problems such as “impotence” can help reduce this type of sexual addiction. As for the rumors on the Internet that circumcision can significantly increase the lasting time, in fact it only increases the daily friction time of the coronary sulcus, and the difference in lasting time is not significant. It is mainly due to hygiene considerations.
Director Tong Songzhen suggested that if you have the problem of having sex that is too short, you should seek professional treatment and appropriate training to improve the sensitivity of your organs and brain, which will help reduce overly sensitive dysfunction.
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