The "Victory in Life Group" suffers from depression because they are not satisfied? How to help relatives and friends around you open the "inner knot"?
Adi, the well-known English teaching YouTuber and author of “Adi English”, recently announced through the video platform that he has been suffering from depression for a year. The video shocked the outside world as soon as the video was released. Many people are very concerned that Adi, who usually has a sunny and warm image, is suffering from mental illness. Accident. “Adi English” has 2.67 million subscribers on the video platform. As the channel manager, Adi has even opened physical English cram schools and online courses. His personal career seems to be quite successful, and he has become a “victory in life” in the eyes of the public. “Group”, why are depression still coming to your doorstep?
Depression is not the same as depression. Material deprivation and psychological trauma cannot be confused.
Before discussing depression, it is important to understand that depression and “melancholy” are not completely synonymous. The Anxiety and Depression Association of America defines symptoms of depression as including overeating, memory loss, loss of interest in usual hobbies, irritability, constant thoughts of death, etc. “Melancholy” itself is a negative emotional expression. Like joy, anger, sadness, and joy, it will change with time or situation changes. When depressive problems turn into “melancholia”, it is often not just a few words of comfort and enlightenment from people around them that can help them solve the problem, because “melancholy” may originate from personal and environmental interactions, and often requires various treatments and daily routines. Symptoms can be improved only by adjustment, which is different from the temporary depression experienced by ordinary people.
Is it “not satisfied” to make money every day and still suffer from depression? The problem is not that simple
Most people believe that low socioeconomic environment and life stress may be more likely to cause depression. However, Adi is already a celebrity in the community with both fame and wealth, so why did he become ill and even said that he was depressed every day? Some people attribute depression to a personality problem of “not being satisfied”. In fact, the problem is not that simple.
Research in the “British Medical Journal” shows that people do suffer from depression due to factors such as financial problems, health status, and poor working environment. However, patients with depression are affected by these external factors, not because they lack ambition or greed. , caused by lack of satisfaction. Many times it is due to the “feeling of powerlessness” of being unable to change the current situation. When the problem cannot be solved, it often makes the patient more anxious and difficult to escape from negative emotions.
Therefore, instead of saying that patients with depression are “not satisfied”, it is better to say that they have encountered many factors or events that cause depression in their lives, and the results of these factors or events “cannot make them feel satisfied”, such as the death of a relative or friend, or overnight bankruptcy. , physical illness, etc., may cause abnormal changes in the brain and lead to depression. Let me remind you again that “melancholy” is an emotion and thought, and “not satisfied” is also a thought caused by people’s current lack of “material” desires, and has little to do with the psychological trauma of patients with depression. Applying materialistic terms such as “insatiable” and “unsatisfied” to patients cannot truly explain the cause of depression, and it is even less helpful to their condition.
To untie the bell, the person who tied the bell needs to find the “key” to open the knot in his heart. More importantly,
What is more important to note is that because most people do not understand depression and do not know how to properly get along with relatives and friends suffering from depression, friction and conflict are more likely to occur, and even the patient’s condition may be aggravated. How to accompany patients with depression to get out of trauma? In fact, what patients with depression need most may not be well-intentioned “advice”, but “needs” that can enrich their hearts, such as companionship, health or financial support.
Psychiatrist Yang Congcai believes that in order to untie the inner knot of patients with depression, they must first find the corresponding key. What relatives and friends can do at this time is to accompany them to find the key, which may be a belief, interest or beautiful scenery. The process may also take some time. Therefore, continued companionship and encouragement from relatives and friends is crucial for patients. In particular, people around you need to truly understand the physical and mental state of patients with depression with “empathy.”
Today, the occurrence of depression is no longer rare. There may be someone suffering from depression around you and me. Maybe just a word of concern or a greeting can be their life-saving straw. However, if you really have too much time to care about the condition of your depressed relatives or friends, or you are simply not good at accompanying and encouraging them, the best way is to take them to receive diagnosis and treatment from a professional doctor. The doctor will plan the treatment and avoid letting the patient suffer from the influence of people around him. lack of understanding, increasing their risk of secondary injury caused by verbal stimulation.
All in all, depression is increasingly understood as a disease that requires treatment and care. Just like a “cold of the soul”, it can happen to anyone. Don’t think that they are all “unsatisfied”. You will get sick if you think too much. In this way, you will have the correct understanding when someone around you is suffering from depression and know how to get along well with them.
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Long term life dissatisfaction and subsequent major depressive disorder and poor mental health
