Is there a surge in "psychopsychiatric" consultations around Valentine's Day? Doctor: I want to be single too much. Stress and depression are all over my body.
After the Lunar New Year, 214 Valentine’s Day will follow. Chen Yiru, a psychosomatic physician at the Cheng Ching Hospital Chung Kang Branch, said that there are many patients seeking treatment for emotional problems. Most of them are caused by troubles and stress caused by their own emotions or maintaining emotional relationships, which lead to symptoms. Mood disorders and seek help from the psychosomatic clinic.
Dr. Chen Yiru said that in the cases that she has consulted and treated in the past, especially around the holidays, those who seek treatment for emotional problems can be mainly classified into four major groups: first, those who want to be single but have been single for a long time, and see others who are in love with each other; But I was alone, suffering from constant loss, stress, depression and other discomforts, which seriously affected my daily routine, which is what is often called “Valentine’s Day phobia”. The second is that the other person’s advantages are exaggerated due to infatuation (called the “halo effect” in psychology). Only after deepening the relationship do you realize that the other person is not as perfect as you imagined, and thus fall into low ebb and depression.
Dr. Chen Yiru pointed out that the other two groups are: those who have been married for many years and are unable to communicate and resolve their relationship, so they seek counseling for divorce; the last is those who suffer from their own illnesses such as depression, bipolar disorder, or anxiety, and are not treated by the general public in society. Looking forward to the holidays; on the other hand, they are also afraid that their illness will affect the development of their emotional relationships.
When counseling these cases, my thinking is: “Life is a series of choices. It is not about pursuing success, but learning how to enjoy happiness in every choice.” Therefore, Dr. Chen Yiru provides some gentle suggestions:
In the relationship between the sexes, respect each other as an independent individual with his own unique life experience, give him space, and replace control and possession with appreciation and tolerance.
After falling in love, remind yourself that feelings are not everything in the world. Love yourself more and cherish other people and things you have. Giving in and being wronged will make you unable to find your position in the relationship. Resentment and revenge may lead to lose-lose situations.
There is no perfection in the world. Use “mindfulness” to learn to accept all your emotions and cherish every moment. Mindfulness refers to allowing oneself to perceive the present moment of each experience without any evaluation. In the process of unfolding awareness and understanding, practice to let the body, emotions, thoughts, thoughts and other mental states lead to relaxation, stress reduction, calmness and A state of relaxed concentration.
Dr. Chen reminds you not to be afraid of negative emotions in relationships, and to face depression and other emotions bravely. You can consult a professional doctor to find out the root cause of the problem together. If you are single and are stressed about Valentine’s Day, you can arrange activities in advance, have dinner with friends or family, or participate in more social activities, meet friends, change your mood, and don’t let the happiness you deserve slip away from your hands.
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