Set goals every year, but can't you achieve them every year? The doctor explains the crux: Don't rush to make a "wish list" yet
This year is coming to an end and getting ready for the new one. I set up a “To Do List” every year, but the next year I find that I can’t accomplish even half of it. What’s the problem? Dr. Chen Caifan, a medical physician at Lian On Clinic, said that it is important to have specific expectations for your future actions, but don’t forget to plan your “To Be List” simultaneously. While focusing on the goal, you should also review the process.
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Dr. Chen Caifan said that whether it is work or interpersonal relationships, people often slam on the accelerator and drive towards the goal like driving a car, only to find that not every time they can reach the destination (goal) smoothly. This is because when people are chasing new goals, they tend to overlook the “old goals” that were not achieved last year. Therefore, in addition to reviewing the to-do list set last year, you should also focus on yourself this year.
“After all the processes I have gone through this year, how am I? What do I feel? What emotions are worth exploring?” Dr. Chen Caifan pointed out that practicing identifying feelings and expressing emotions can help you get to know and get closer to yourself, and also You will have more opportunities to get closer to your “core needs”. If you are not familiar with identifying feelings and expressing emotions, you can start by recalling positive emotions, such as recalling the 3 happiest moments this year, 3 moments when you felt loved this year, or 3 moments when you felt a sense of accomplishment this year. moment.
Dr. Chen Caifan further explained that from the perspective of “positive psychology”, positive emotions are helpful in improving concentration, perspective on things, and willingness to accept different information. Starting from practicing recalling positive emotions, it is easier to be in a state of relaxation and security. It also allows people to look back on what they have done this year. Their attention and cognition are no longer limited to frustration about unfinished tasks, but also more Not self-critical.
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Dr. Chen Caifan suggests that in the face of the upcoming year, you should first try to set your own To Be List (want to be a list) instead of rushing to make a To Do List (to do list). “Who I want to be” comes before “What am I going to do?” Using personality traits to guide behavior may be more efficient and approachable than simply setting a to-do plan.
“For example, in next year’s To Be List, choose “I want to be a healthy person.” Then when planning next year’s To Do List, the appropriate actions to take may be: eat more vegetables of different colors, try different Exercise, give yourself at least seven hours of sleep…and then you may also think of arranging a health check-up for yourself to actually understand your health status and possible health risks.”
Dr. Chen Caifan said that from reviewing positive emotions, identifying one’s own feelings, expressing emotions honestly, to establishing a To Be List, it takes repeated practice and accumulation to clarify one’s true needs. As the time axis turns, people’s own status and relationships with others will flow accordingly. Therefore, it is important to let the list “turn” according to needs, rather than using it to limit or oppress oneself, which only increases psychological tension. Stress may make it harder to achieve goals.
“Remember that the list is just a tool to remind and assist yourself, not a rule to limit or even oppress yourself!”
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