Are narcissistic personalities prone to drama and lacking empathy? Psychologist reminds: 5 signs of relationship, beware of meeting a scary lover
What are the characteristics of a narcissistic personality? More dramatic emotions and lack of empathy
What is a narcissistic personality? Psychologist Xu Jiaqi, director of Shanxiao Psychotherapy Center, said that according to the DSM-5 personality disorder diagnostic criteria, personality disorders can be divided into three major categories. Group A personalities tend to be eccentric and deviate from the norm; group B personalities are prone to drama, Unstable; Cluster C personality is related to anxiety, fear and other manifestations, while narcissistic personality is one of the Cluster B personalities.
Psychologist Xu Jiaqi reminds that Group B personalities have many common traits, such as more dramatic behaviors and emotions, unstable interpersonal relationships, more extreme relationship changes, easy to be self-centered, easier to lack empathy, etc.
However, there are few “pure” narcissistic personalities in clinical practice. Psychologist Xu Jiaqi pointed out that individuals may have different personality traits at the same time, which may not meet the diagnostic criteria. Personality traits are only descriptive, so there is no need to worry too much about whether you have a personality disorder, and At different stages of life, each person may present different aspects of personality traits.
Overall, the four personality traits in Cluster B personality can be summarized as follows:
Antisocial personality: disrespectful and infringing on the rights of others.
Borderline personality: Self-image, self-awareness, emotionally unstable, and obviously impulsive behavior.
Histrionic personality: overly emotional and seeking high attention.
Narcissistic personality: exaggerated emotional reactions, need for praise, lack of empathy.
Are all narcissistic personalities terrible lovers? Psychologists remind you of 5 major signs
Are people with “narcissistic personality” or those with cluster B personality traits prone to becoming horrible lovers? Psychologist Xu Jiaqi believes that there is no absolute causal relationship between narcissistic personality and horrible lovers. On the contrary, you should first understand what characteristics most horrible lovers have, what interaction patterns they tend to show when getting along, and why they make it difficult for their partners to get out of the relationship.
Psychologist Xu Jiaqi pointed out that in the eyes of others, horror lovers are mostly charming, smart, easy to attract others to interact with, and meet the criteria for success objectively. They are also well versed in establishing relationships with others, and it is easy for their partners to fall in love with them while getting along. Trapped in it.
To determine whether the other person is a horrible lover, you should first examine the relationship pattern between them. Psychologist Xu Jiaqi reminds that if you find that the relationship with the other person is unstable, your love and hate are too extreme, you feel that the relationship is not equal, you are easily belittled and trample on your self-esteem, or you are emotional or violent about unacceptable things, you may be a horrible lover. Warning.
How to deal with narcissistic personality? What self-protection actions should be taken during a breakup?
Psychologist Xu Jiaqi suggests that when dealing with group B personalities, you should avoid being hurt or emotionally blackmailed, and the most important thing is to empathize appropriately with the other person. When the other party makes a strong request or has a strong emotional reaction, you can first try to understand the other party’s motives and try not to argue about the apparent rights and wrongs of the issue, so as not to lead to mutual attacks or even lose-lose situations.
Psychologist Xu Jiaqi pointed out that only by gaining insight into the motivations behind the behaviors of Group B personalities can we have the opportunity to communicate well and reach consensus. For example, divorce will involve the distribution of parental rights and property. For Group B personalities, giving in on these distributions may mean failure in the relationship or that you have done something wrong and are not worthy of having these things. Only from this perspective can we understand the other party’s true thinking perspective.
In addition, it is also recommended to give Group B personality a sense of security and trust appropriately, and “appropriately” appease the other person’s emotions, because most of these emotional reactions come from their inner uneasiness, or they feel that their self-image cannot be maintained, which will affect other people’s views of themselves, or Losing too much in relationships leads to strong insecurities. Only by understanding this crux can we avoid falling into a tit-for-tat situation.
In addition, it is recommended to redefine each other’s roles and expectations. Psychologist Hui Jiaqi pointed out that when dealing with group B personalities, you must realize that the other person is unlikely to change. Many people hold the idea of "I can change him", but end up with bruises all over. Finally, you can also “retreat in order to advance” appropriately to avoid head-on confrontation with group B, which may sometimes lead to unexpected results.
Psychologist Xu Jiaqi suggests that when preparing to end a relationship with a group B personality, such as talking about divorce, breakup, end of cooperative relationship, or breakup between friends, it is best to be particularly cautious in handling it. It is best to seek an objective third person to be present at the same time and make the choice public. , safe occasion. During the process, you must try your best to clarify your goals and prepare a plan in advance, so that you will not be forced and have no way out.
Before communicating and breaking up, you can conduct a simulation exercise in advance. If you encounter an unexpected situation, remember to strive for buffering time and space, such as saying, “I think this issue is equally important to us. Please give me some time to think about your request. I will respond to you after some time.” Similar sentences let the other person know that you empathize with him and that you value his problem.
In addition, negative feelings should be reduced as much as possible, and anxiety, panic, etc. should be reduced. Since type B personality is very sensitive to emotions, these negative feelings may become weapons used by type B personality to intimidate the other party and achieve their goals. Psychologist Xu Jiaqi suggests that when negative feelings occur, you can shift your attention slightly, or seek the company of others to avoid making impulsive decisions.
Psychologist Xu Jiaqi reminds that when communicating with Group B personalities, it is recommended to adopt a firm and gentle stance. An attitude that is too tough will arouse the other party’s insecurity and emotional reactions. Finally, be sure to establish clear boundaries and let the other person know which behaviors have crossed the red line so that you can safely and peacefully “break up” with the relationship.
