Are you still in "the male leads outside and the female leads inside"? If the gender concept in the family is too conservative, the divorce rate will be higher!
The awareness of gender equality is now very common, and the inequality between men and women in life and workplace is gradually being taken seriously. However, there are still a few countries where due to the influence of traditional etiquette and customs, gender concepts still tend to be conservative and follow the idea of "men take charge of the outside world and women take charge of the house". Not only are women restricted in their careers, but men also suffer greater consequences. pressure. Now, according to research from the University of Pennsylvania, in countries or families where gender is relatively conservative, if men are unemployed or fail to start a business, they may have a higher chance of divorce.
When traditional men fail in their careers, couples become more stressed
Pilar, a professor of sociology at the University of Pennsylvania. Pilar Gonalons-Pons has focused on researching family labor and public policy issues in the past five years. In this research, Pons wanted to understand the impact of “gender culture” on family economics. The research team found a total of 355,897 heterosexual couples from 28 European and American countries. One-third of the families believe that men are the breadwinners at home, while other families have relatively less conservative gender concepts.
After a long-term follow-up of up to 4 years, the research team concluded that families with more conservative gender concepts have the highest divorce rate and receive the most criticism after men lose their jobs or fail to start a business, while families with more equal gender concepts have the highest divorce rates. Among them, men are less likely to be blamed for unemployment and have lower divorce rates. Pence said that in families with traditional gender concepts, when men suffer setbacks in their careers, the gap between husband and wife will increase. The wife may be asked by others: “What’s wrong with your husband? How could this happen?” " This can increase feelings of shame and become a source of stress between couples, ultimately leading to divorce or breakup.
Will you be happy for a lifetime if you get married? It is more important to choose a free way of living
The above-mentioned example of the incompatibility of “bread” and “love” has also made many people think: is having a partner, getting married, or even having children really the only happiness in life? Michigan State University in the United States conducted long-term tracking of married people and single people and found that there is not much difference in the happiness they get from life. Single people can get it through the sense of accomplishment from relatives, friends or work. Being happy, not having a partner does not necessarily diminish your happiness. Researcher Maria. Mariah Purol believes that many times it is just social constraints that make us see the beauty of marriage. In fact, choosing the most comfortable lifestyle is sometimes much happier than forcing oneself into marriage. Marriage is not about happiness. the only answer.
According to statistics from the Ministry of the Interior, Taiwan’s divorce rate ranked highest in Asia in 2020, with a total of 51,680 couples divorcing. In 2020, Taiwan’s fertility rate hit a 10-year low, with only 165,249 newborns. Many young people choose to live alone, which shows that they do not want to choose between bread and love; instead of entering a marriage where they cannot have both, it is better to invest in themselves and live a relaxed life without the pressure of mortgage and childcare. And is this good or bad for Taiwan’s future? I’m afraid only time will tell, but if you force yourself into a marriage in order to meet society’s expectations, and unfortunately get divorced, you are really just wasting the good years of both parties!
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