Is it easy to get emotional if you meet in bed to meet up after a breakup? American research: Helps to get rid of the haze of broken love and expand the circle of friends
Is it reasonable to meet up to have sex after a breakup? More than 400 subjects believed it had a “positive effect”
Is it appropriate for couples to have sex after they break up or divorce? For Taiwanese society with relatively conservative sexual concepts, most people may think it is ridiculous; however, a study published in the international journal Archives of Sexual Behavior revealed that “post-breakup sex” is actually It has a positive impact on both “ex” partners.
Wayne State University in the United States launched two surveys to understand the degree of emotional attachment between partners after a breakup or divorce. In the first study, the research team asked 113 subjects who had recently broken up with their partners whether they had any physical contact with their ex-partners and their level of psychological dependence on their ex-partners.
In the second study, the team gathered 372 subjects and asked them whether they had attempted and actual sexual contact with their ex-partners, and whether they still had an emotional connection. The subjects completed a one-month diary record after the breakup, and the research team also conducted a two-month random interview.
Research on Intimate Behavior with Ex-Partners: Positive Help in Developing New Relationships
The research team compared the data from the above two studies and found that most of these subjects were able to recover from the depression or sadness caused by love breakup after having sex with their ex-partners. In addition, subjects who asked their ex-partner to have sex were, in most cases, quite successful in having sex with their ex-partner. The researchers found that having sex did not affect their recovery from the haze of broken love, and the success rate was not directly related to the chance of getting back together after a breakup.
Participants who longed for sex with their ex-partner viewed sex as a way to promote intimacy and connection with each other and did not feel anything inappropriate about it. And they didn’t feel miserable or depressed after having sex; in fact, it made them more active in their daily lives.
Study lead author Stephanie. “This study proves that many people have moral doubts and concerns about having sex with their ex-partners, and it turns out that these concerns may be unfounded,” said Stephanie Spielmann, a co-author of the study. She believes that these studies challenge people’s established thinking about having sex with their ex-partners. Even if they have sex with their ex-partners, the subjects who participated in this study not only did not feel tied down by their past relationships in the end, but were able to continue to have sex with their ex-partners. Before, actively develop new friendship circles and romantic relationships. Therefore, Spearman believes that the complex feelings people have with their ex-partners deserve further evaluation and in-depth study.
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Co-author of this study Samantha. Samantha Joel said that in this experiment, the subjects thought it was easier to have sex with their ex-partner than with a new partner. Familiarity with each other and memories created together drive both parties to have sex; uncertainty with a new partner makes sex less likely to occur. In addition, considering that they had had one or several previous intimate behaviors with their ex-partner, the subjects believed that it was more logical for the two to have sex and that they felt less guilty.
Joel believes that judging from the research results, it is not difficult to understand why many people always think that the ex-boyfriend/girlfriend of their partner is likely to pose a threat. In this study, subjects were more jealous of their partner’s intimate relationship with their ex-partner than their partner seeking a new love. Therefore, reliving past romantic experiences can have a devastating impact on your current relationship.
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