Is the chance of your partner having an affair greatly increased after having a baby? Professional psychologist: "6 major events" that can easily make your partner cheat
Imagine that a major event has just happened in your life. It may be a career failure, a family crisis, or an unexpected encounter. At such a critical moment, your emotional needs begin to change, and a psychological transition is quietly taking place! What life or major events can easily prompt people to have the idea of having an affair?
While major life events do not necessarily lead to an affair, they can be a “catalyst” for changing emotional needs. How do these shifts affect the deepest trust and connections between people?
1. After giving birth
During the consultation process, I have experienced too many cases where the husband had an affair with his wife during pregnancy. I once saw a pregnant wife taking a taxi from place to place to look for the husband. After she found him, she was yelled at and scolded by the husband, and she felt aggrieved all day long. I shed tears and couldn’t sleep. I was really worried that my wife would do something harmful to me.
There are also wives who, after the birth of their children, shift all their attention to the child and show little interest in intimate sexual life. On the one hand, the husband feels that his importance has been replaced by the child. On the other hand, if his sexual needs are not satisfied for a long time, he gives Your own legitimate reasons for having an affair.
2. Period of unemployment
According to a survey by the American Sociological Review, men are at the highest risk of having an affair when they are unemployed, with a probability of 15%. This is because taking money from a partner threatens potential “masculine virility.” , having an affair is one of the ways for men to regain their virility.
In fact, regardless of whether men or women are unemployed for a long time at home, it is easy to lose self-confidence and sense of worth in themselves, and feel that they are worthless. When people lose their sense of accomplishment at work, they may shift their attention to other tasks that can immediately gain a sense of accomplishment. If you develop a relationship at this time, you will not only feel your own charm and value, but also get warmth and comfort.
3. Dating software
After the popularity of dating software, many affairs have occurred. Many people will use dating software to find someone to chat with and re-experience the feeling of falling in love. The two parties will first go out to eat or watch a movie. If they are compatible, they will further develop the relationship.
4. After falling ill
After many people have experienced a life-and-death crisis, they will suddenly feel that “life is impermanent” and “the days are numbered”. In order to seize the time to do “things they have thought about for a long time but have never done”, or feel that “they have not done anything for it”. If you have lived by yourself, you may suddenly make a major decision in life, give up a goal that you have worked hard for for a long time, or resign hastily, or fall into a love that is not blessed or allowed.
5. Death in the family
After experiencing the death of important family members or friends, some people will feel particularly lonely and feel that no one understands them. They are sad to lose the spiritual support they have relied on for a long time, and their partner cannot replace the importance of the other. In order to find new spiritual sustenance, they develop a new relationship. .
For example, a friend who had a close relationship with his mother chose to escape because he could not face the death of his mother. Under the intertwining of guilt and anxiety, he indulged in the emotion of an affair, and constantly tortured himself with feelings of anxiety and guilt. There are also people who are inspired by deceased family members and friends, see the regrets left by the other person in their life, and want to avoid the same regrets in the future, so they decide to have an affair.
6. Entrepreneurship process
After starting a business, many people will long for respect and admiration, so as to feel the value of success. If their partner does not change the way they treat him or her in time, another relationship may develop that satisfies the “need to be admired.” There are also people who have new working partners after starting their own business, and both parties often work side by side, thus developing revolutionary feelings. There are also people who need various human and economic resources after starting a business. At this time, if someone lends a helping hand in time, it is possible to develop a relationship based on gratitude.
When your partner’s heart changes, discovering and understanding their needs in time will help the relationship heat up! Long-term partners sometimes ignore each other’s psychological changes when major events occur. If you notice that your partner’s recent behavior patterns or the way he speaks are different from before, you may wish to understand the needs behind the changes and resolve them in a timely manner. Updated interaction methods may bring new possibilities to life.
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