Ai Cheng fell from the building/What should I do if my relatives and friends want to commit suicide? A psychologist reveals a way to avoid regrets: let them know there are "other options"
It was reported that artist Ai Cheng died after falling from a building, causing uproar and reluctance from all walks of life. Past reports have pointed out that Ai Cheng has repeatedly suffered from depression and bipolar disorder, and his physical and mental condition is more unstable than ordinary people. When relatives or friends around them have suicidal thoughts or ideas, how should the public provide appropriate assistance and care? What are the signs that people who have suicidal thoughts should follow before taking action?
What should I do if my relatives or friends are suicidal? “This behavior” needs to be reported immediately
Psychologist Xu Naiwen, a clinical psychologist at Mifan Psychotherapy Center, pointed out in an interview that suicide behavior can be roughly divided into three stages: first, the individual has suicidal thoughts or ideas; second, the individual begins to plan suicide-related measures, including where to implement and how Execution, etc., and finally taking action. It usually progresses to the second or third stage, which means that the physical and mental condition may have been seriously affected.
Psychologist Xu Naiwen said that if the idea of suicide progresses to the second or third stage, a notification system must be established immediately in accordance with the Suicide Prevention Act for medical personnel, police personnel, fire fighters, school personnel, village chiefs, etc. to conduct notification operations. In addition, seeking contact information for the family members of those who committed suicide and establishing their support system are also crucial steps in suicide prevention and treatment.
How to avoid committing suicide? Psychologist: Help them deal with their emotional pain first
In addition to helping those with suicidal thoughts to establish contact with the “outside” world, it is equally important to help them deal with the “inner” pain. Psychologist Xu Naiwen said that most suicide behaviors are related to “a sense of hopelessness”. When the surrounding environment or pressure makes people think that “there is nothing to worry about”, it will increase the possibility of reaching a dead end.
“If there were ‘other options’ that could alleviate the pain, would you still want to commit suicide? If there is an opportunity for people who commit suicide to realize this, it may reduce the occurrence of regrets!”
Psychologist Xu Naiwen emphasizes that in order to help those with suicidal thoughts, we must first understand what kind of pain makes them unable to escape. When patients have strong thoughts of committing suicide, the top priority is to help them relieve their emotional pain. Practical difficulties can be discussed in the long term after their emotions are relieved.
Is committing suicide a “spur of the moment”? Is it most difficult to save someone who is determined to commit suicide?
There was a random interview among suicide survivors, and it was found that about 24% of those who committed suicide took less than 5 minutes on average from the thought of suicide to the action. Is suicide just an impulse between thoughts? Psychologist Xu Naiwen believes that most suicide behaviors are the result of long-term thinking and planning. Having thoughts and committing suicide in a short period of time is more of an “impulsive behavior under intense emotions at the moment”, and is different from a long-term process of suffering from pain and despair.
“We can’t save people who are determined to commit suicide. What we can save are ‘people who don’t want to commit suicide’ so much!” Psychologist Xu Naiwen revealed that suicides caused by impulsive behavior, as well as those who are “firmly determined to die” and want to commit suicide, The cases are the most difficult to save and occur in the shortest time. Therefore, early care for relatives and friends who are in pain or experiencing great changes can help reduce the occurrence of suicides.
What should I do if I have suicidal thoughts? Psychologist reveals 1 action to help yourself
What external stressors are most likely to trigger thoughts of suicide? Psychologist Xu Naiwen said that financial difficulties, emotional problems, frustration in interpersonal relationships or mental illness are all common reasons. In many cases of emotional problems, when angry, they often want to inflict pain on the other party by “threatening to death”.
“‘Anger’ that wants the other person to suffer and wanting to commit suicide out of ‘despair’ are two different things. It is actually not logical to cause pain to the other person by ending his life. It is better to communicate with the other person well or stay away from the relationship immediately than to hurt yourself. , it can calm down angry emotions.”
Psychologist Xu Naiwen also reminded that if there are relatives or friends around you who have thoughts of committing suicide, it is recommended to accompany and listen as much as possible to avoid excessive tension and stress in getting along, which will instead increase the tension between each other. If you feel that you have suicidal thoughts or even want to take action, give yourself a buffer of half an hour to an hour, call 119 or go to the emergency room for help, so that external forces have the opportunity to help relieve your emotions and pain, and you have the opportunity to reduce the pain. An irreversible tragedy occurs.
“Many people don’t know that suicidal thoughts can be alleviated. Giving yourself some time and seeking professional help early are the keys to helping yourself get out of rock bottom!”
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