6 types of "dating landmines" that you should never step on: The ambiguous period will immediately turn the other person off! Being too clingy and having a chaotic private life are both on the list
If you want to be the perfect partner in the eyes of the opposite sex, you must first avoid becoming the “destroyer” of an ambiguous relationship? According to a study published in the journal “Personality and Individual Differences”, there are six types of personalities that disgust the opposite sex: disgusting appearance or gross behavior, being too obsessed with feelings (Addicted), being too dependent on the other person (clingy), and having a chaotic or abusive private life. Being promiscuous, apathetic and unmotivated are the most likely to destroy relationships with the opposite sex.
During the period of ambiguity, the other person will be left cold immediately! Research: 6 types of “relationship landmines” you must not step on
Research teams from the United States, the Czech Republic, and Italy collected sample data from 285 college students in the United States, of which 115 were male and 170 were male. Participants were asked to fill out a questionnaire on 49 traits of a potential mate, rating each trait on a scale of 1-5, with a relationship destroyer being defined as someone who “loses interest in an ambiguous partner immediately after learning about that trait, or immediately loses interest in that partner. Disgusted.”
Preliminary survey results show that the six most disgusting traits are vulgar behavior/disgusting appearance, excessive obsession with feelings, dependence on others, chaotic private life, indifference and lack of ambition. Further research shows that in terms of “long-term relationships” (such as living together, getting married and having children), both male and female subjects believe that “indifference” is the biggest factor that destroys relationships, and the other five items in order are vulgar behavior, dependence on each other, and lack of affection. Obsession, chaotic private life and lack of ambition.
As for short-term relationships (such as one-night stands and sexual partners), vulgar behavior and overdependence on the other person’s personality are the two most disgusting traits. It is worth mentioning that vulgar behavior or appearance is disgusting (gross) and is repulsive to subjects in terms of both short-term and long-term relationship strategies. The study believes that this indicator may indicate the threat of pathogens and inhibit the idea of reproductive among non-parents.
Vulgarity and lack of ambition are both NG! Young women are more disgusted by clingy and cold men
In addition, from a male perspective, except for vulgar behavior, the other five items are regarded as potential relationship destroying factors. As for women’s judgment standards, there are differences in age. Older women believe that vulgar behavior and lack of ambition are more likely to lead to the breakdown of relationships; while younger women are more likely to dislike men who are dependent on each other or who are too cold.
Zsofia Csajbok, the author of the study, believes that taking into account the openness of sexual concepts and the different views on love among young people, the “landmine personality” between men and women regarding investment in relationships has also changed with the times. For example, people with more open sexual concepts (mostly men) tend to maintain lower standards for their partners; people who believe that their spouses have higher value are more likely to refuse to invest in relationships, and the correlation is stronger among women than among men.
Even so, Csajbok said that the six personalities in the above study cannot be used as the only criteria for choosing a mate, and the sample size of this study is still insufficient. More subjects need to be included to clarify the relationship between personality and relationship destroyers. sex. “In general, if you can avoid the above six types of personality, and respect each other enough and treat each other well, it will indeed be helpful to become an ideal partner.”
I’m afraid there’s no reason why I’ve been single for a long time! 12 behaviors that may reduce the intimacy between two parties
Based on the above, a bad personality may lead to long-term singleness, or even poor interpersonal relationships, making it difficult to find a suitable partner. Previous research published in “Personality and Individual Differences” also showed that regardless of gender, there are roughly 12 behaviors that can make people feel disgusted and reduce the intimacy of the flirting process; 3 of them will significantly increase the failure rate of flirting.
The University of Nicosia in Cyprus analyzed 734 different subjects to assess which personalities were most aversive. Experimental results show that 12 behaviors are the most detrimental to flirting or warming up a relationship. They are: poor hygiene, absent-mindedness, excessive concern for the other party, bad words, ugly appearance, lack of intelligence, excessive narcissism, and lack of humor. , inappropriate physical contact, excessive low self-esteem, stinginess, and inconsistent values.
The study pointed out that the top three behaviors that disgusted subjects the most were poor hygiene, absentmindedness, and excessive concern for each other. Menelaos Apostolou, the author of the study, said that the behavior of overly caring about the other party includes sending too many caring text messages, sending gifts, etc., which not only makes it difficult for the relationship between the two to become closer, but may also have the opposite effect.
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What constitutes bad flirting: An explorative study of dealbreakers
Six “red flags” in relationships: From being dangerous to gross and being apathetic to unmotivated
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